Emotionally Free – glad to be clear about this now

I used to think that emotions were really good and important. And I used to think that being emotionally strong or fit meant that I’d be hard and would never feel anything, or that I would be cut off from other people and not aware of emotions. I was totally wrong about that. It’s not like that at all!

Here’s a bit of what I’ve learned:

First, that if you want to be emotionally free and strong, it’s important to know what being emotionally strong really means. Otherwise, you end up getting something that you really don’t want. Here’s how I describe being emotionally free and strong:

When you’re emotionally free and strong, emotions don’t weaken or disturb you. Your emotions don’t stop you from doing the right thing at any time. I’ve proven that we’re at our strongest emotionally when we’re so relaxed and happy that negative situations simply can’t touch us -they can’t affect us.

It’s easy for me to say that, but it’s not so easy for me to do it sometimes. I’ve had tons of mentoring and daily practice for years. But if you honestly want to be emotionally free and strong, you have to be willing to experience lots of mistakes and lots of learning. But as long as you’re willing to take on the learning and mistakes you’ll naturally become much stronger and freer.

One aspect of my work as a mentor is in helping people handle emotional situations and develop emotional skills that are effective in any kind of situation. I help people become relaxed and happy in all kinds of situations that might stir their emotions. I’ve had numerous clients who are therapists, EFT teachers, counselors, healers, and although they’ve learned a lot of great techniques, they’ve come to me because all that they know doesn’t really work at their deepest levels and they were sincere enough to admit it.

Hint– even while you’re reading this, try allowing yourself to relax and let the words sink into you. If you feel any kind of emotion like excitement or worry, nervousness, sadness or fear, let my words calm down your emotional feelings and be replaced by calmness and inner peace.

There are inner-skills you can learn that help you whenever you’re feeling emotions coming on. They must be developed. You may not believe this, but you can learn to quickly reach a state where the emotion isn’t affecting you any more. This way, you avoid making damaging decisions or simply being confused because you’re influenced by your emotions rather than by what is actually best.

Some people still think it’s good to be emotional. It’s understandable because that’s pretty much what we’ve all been taught. But no successful leader will ever want to make decisions that are influenced by strong emotion. No top level athlete will allow themselves to be emotional at the start of an big competition. You see some pro’s getting very emotional, but I wouldn’t consider them top level.

We can say that it’s better to show our emotions than it is to hide them and keep them locked inside. When they’re locked inside you, everyone can feel the tension. Everybody knows that there’s something not quite right. Holding on to the emotions tends to make everyone tense – Boo.

But that doesn’t mean that showing all our emotions is the right way to act.

Much stronger is the person who doesn’t get angry, because things don’t bother him so much. Much stronger is the person who can rise above her fear because of courage. Much stronger is the person who doesn’t cry because she simply doesn’t feel sorry for herself – she handles difficult situations and faces challenges.

This kind of emotional strength and freedom comes from facing difficult situations again and again, using every situation to learn how to relax and let go of the emotion, and doing the right thing rather than being disturbed by other people’s negative actions. Strength comes from finding your own inner peace and clear mind rather than let the world around you sway and rock you, and push you off course… that is, if you’re on course. But many people are off course because most of their life is lived and led by emotions.

I’m hoping to inspire you to understand that being over emotional is not healthy, nor does it lead to success of any kind. It only prolongs disharmony. Whenever I’m in touch with any of my strong emotions, I have several inner-strengthening techniques I use that turn the feelings around into feeling very free, relaxed and happy – the way you and I are both meant to be.

Being relaxed and happy in any situation will lead us to health, happiness and much greater success, and I believe that’s truly what everyone wants.

Successfully learning the techniques for being emotionally strong and free doesn’t happen by reading books. That’s like learning to dance using IMing. Learning the techniques is a person to person experience and I’m happy to share more with you through my webinars or online modules.

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