Love Relationships – What’s it take to have the newest fashion?

I’ve had more than a fair share of relationships in my life. I’m talking about love relationships… deeper than a friendship that typically stops at loving friendliness. But that’s history and my interest here is the future.

I’ve learned that the new fashion in love relationships is to have soul enjoyment and to actually enjoy the relationship, not to suffer together. The new fashion of love relationship and the old fashion do not mix easily for good reason.

The old fashion love relationship is built on emotion, comfort, and pursuit of old fashioned expectations ie. date, fall in love, get married, make a family, have a house, good jobs, travel and toys, kids leave, help with grand kids, you retire and travel, you travel more and soon die.

The new fashion of love relationships is about soul enjoyment, emotional strength, natural health, and striving for impossible goals that provide the means for greater soul development. Be sure to add “Making a contribution to society” to that list.

Love relationships in the new society demand a partner to provide you with positive friction; a partner to support your spirit, your energy, and your life development. This is the best partner, because a gem can’t be polished without friction! If you partner with a happy person, one that balances your elements and provides quality friction, success and money will come to you later automatically.

Everybody who is looking for a love relationship is looking for somebody who is happy, because a happy person can accept things more easily and are typically more resilient. When you’re happy, you’re not sick or angry and you rarely feel emotionally unbalanced. A happy person is always looking forward to the future and enjoying what is happening now along with having a strong life goal and earthly purpose.

When I look back at my relationships, I can see that I never honestly had a clear goal. I mean a goal for my life- like my life purpose. I didn’t discover my life goal till just few years ago and so I never got what I wanted in a partner, because in fact, I didn’t know what I wanted for my own life. And because I didn’t know what I wanted for my life, how could I possibly know what I wanted or needed in a partner?

I look around at the popular emotionally driven relationships that seem so prized and I see that’s a lot of what I’ve experienced in the past– being with someone I wanted to help me “feel” better. Feeling good is important, but when you’re with someone who is emotionally fit you can use your combined energies to create new realities and contribute to society. I think that’s way more fun and rewarding.

To find the new fashion of love relationship, I’ve learned that my bigger goal and my awareness must be clear. If I’m not clear, that means that I’m confused and I can’t find what I really want. Even if the right person is in front of me, it’s as if I don’t see them.

In my webinar last night about creating new love relationships, we talked about some very interesting things. Here’s a couple of them:

If you want a new fashion love relationship, you must be seeking and knowing about your life goal and you must have a substantial amount of happiness along with skills that develop happiness. If you’re in a relationship and want it to become the new fashion love relationship, you must do the same.

We joked in the webinar about two people having clear goals for their life in the area of success. One person becoming a successful policeman and the other becoming a successful theif. This obviously is not going to make a pretty picture of the new fashion love relationship! The point is that the goals need to line up with each other. If one person is going to Texas and the other is going to Alaska, they are obviously going to take different paths and therefore don’t make for good partners.

Here’s to having clear goals and happiness <3

Emotionally Free – glad to be clear about this now

I used to think that emotions were really good and important. And I used to think that being emotionally strong or fit meant that I’d be hard and would never feel anything, or that I would be cut off from other people and not aware of emotions. I was totally wrong about that. It’s not like that at all!

Here’s a bit of what I’ve learned:

First, that if you want to be emotionally free and strong, it’s important to know what being emotionally strong really means. Otherwise, you end up getting something that you really don’t want. Here’s how I describe being emotionally free and strong:

When you’re emotionally free and strong, emotions don’t weaken or disturb you. Your emotions don’t stop you from doing the right thing at any time. I’ve proven that we’re at our strongest emotionally when we’re so relaxed and happy that negative situations simply can’t touch us -they can’t affect us.

It’s easy for me to say that, but it’s not so easy for me to do it sometimes. I’ve had tons of mentoring and daily practice for years. But if you honestly want to be emotionally free and strong, you have to be willing to experience lots of mistakes and lots of learning. But as long as you’re willing to take on the learning and mistakes you’ll naturally become much stronger and freer.

One aspect of my work as a mentor is in helping people handle emotional situations and develop emotional skills that are effective in any kind of situation. I help people become relaxed and happy in all kinds of situations that might stir their emotions. I’ve had numerous clients who are therapists, EFT teachers, counselors, healers, and although they’ve learned a lot of great techniques, they’ve come to me because all that they know doesn’t really work at their deepest levels and they were sincere enough to admit it.

Hint– even while you’re reading this, try allowing yourself to relax and let the words sink into you. If you feel any kind of emotion like excitement or worry, nervousness, sadness or fear, let my words calm down your emotional feelings and be replaced by calmness and inner peace.

There are inner-skills you can learn that help you whenever you’re feeling emotions coming on. They must be developed. You may not believe this, but you can learn to quickly reach a state where the emotion isn’t affecting you any more. This way, you avoid making damaging decisions or simply being confused because you’re influenced by your emotions rather than by what is actually best.

Some people still think it’s good to be emotional. It’s understandable because that’s pretty much what we’ve all been taught. But no successful leader will ever want to make decisions that are influenced by strong emotion. No top level athlete will allow themselves to be emotional at the start of an big competition. You see some pro’s getting very emotional, but I wouldn’t consider them top level.

We can say that it’s better to show our emotions than it is to hide them and keep them locked inside. When they’re locked inside you, everyone can feel the tension. Everybody knows that there’s something not quite right. Holding on to the emotions tends to make everyone tense – Boo.

But that doesn’t mean that showing all our emotions is the right way to act.

Much stronger is the person who doesn’t get angry, because things don’t bother him so much. Much stronger is the person who can rise above her fear because of courage. Much stronger is the person who doesn’t cry because she simply doesn’t feel sorry for herself – she handles difficult situations and faces challenges.

This kind of emotional strength and freedom comes from facing difficult situations again and again, using every situation to learn how to relax and let go of the emotion, and doing the right thing rather than being disturbed by other people’s negative actions. Strength comes from finding your own inner peace and clear mind rather than let the world around you sway and rock you, and push you off course… that is, if you’re on course. But many people are off course because most of their life is lived and led by emotions.

I’m hoping to inspire you to understand that being over emotional is not healthy, nor does it lead to success of any kind. It only prolongs disharmony. Whenever I’m in touch with any of my strong emotions, I have several inner-strengthening techniques I use that turn the feelings around into feeling very free, relaxed and happy – the way you and I are both meant to be.

Being relaxed and happy in any situation will lead us to health, happiness and much greater success, and I believe that’s truly what everyone wants.

Successfully learning the techniques for being emotionally strong and free doesn’t happen by reading books. That’s like learning to dance using IMing. Learning the techniques is a person to person experience and I’m happy to share more with you through my webinars or online modules.

Science of Smiling

I can easily tell when people are stuck in their thoughts. Their lips are pressed together and they don’t smile very much or easily. When you’re happy you smile naturally, but if you’ve ever been depressed you know that it can feel impossible to smile. By consciously smiling you can make yourself happy, clear your mind and improve your health.

Tradition Chinese Medicine explains that there are points on your face that connect to your stomach meridians. Smiling impacts the points which then relaxes and soothes the stomach muscles. Experts shave shown that smiling also opens key energy points on the back the head. They’re very close to the major meridians that control digestion and body temperature, so we conclude that smiling has a bearing on the health of these vital functions.

This means that being sad and tense has several implications on your health. The cells close and a barrier forms that separates you from fresh energy and rejuvenation. Now you can see how smiling helps make your body a natural receiver for health and happiness.

I find that most people overlook how thinking makes us tense and “closed” to energy. I’ve learned firsthand from my experience with qigong that thinking blocks the flow of energy, and many yoga and alternative medicine practitioners will agree. Thinking connects us to the world of form, in turn leading us to become attached to our emotions.

What do I mean, stop thinking?!!  Most of us are led to believe that if we do not use our minds in a memory-enhancing way, such as what is taught in all left-brained education facilities around the world, we will lose our ability to think. However, the opposite is closer to the truth. Since I began learning how to relax deeply, clear my thoughts, and receive energy from the universe, I found that I get the best of both worlds and I achieve the results I desire more naturally.

A big open smile that is used for the purpose of cultivating happiness sends a message to your soul that it’s okay to be happy! So practicing it is very very good.  It’s like flipping a switch and choosing to be happy. When you practice smiling inwardly as opposed to smiling for the sake of impressing others, it’ll blossom into true happiness. You can change your mood as simply as that.

This means that the future will be full of smiles! Everyone will master this and put an end to the cycle of thoughts and worries that actually destroy health and happiness.

Becoming happy and expressing it through our smile now is what will open the door for people to step into the future. By stepping towards the future now, you begin living it now! New education systems with new values and higher life standards will play a major role in teaching people of all ages how to achieve natural health, happiness and peace.

The Shiniest New Instrument in Your Toolbox: Smiling

Why stop at defining what it means to be happy?

Smiling is a tool that we develop over time that helps us to accept all life experiences, to protect us and to preserve our energy. It may strike you as odd to think of smiling as a skill that we cultivate, but I’ve witnessed many people cure themselves of psychological and physical illness by making intentionally smiling more frequently and feeling the effects from inside out.

When combined with relaxation and expectation, smiling can break down inhibiting energy patterns. The interesting thing is our innate ability to smile frequently as a child diminishes slowly throughout our lives as we endure stress from external situations. We tighten up, smile less and less, and experience limited happiness. You can have hope though, because you can improve your happiness by practicing your smile!

I’ve found a growing body of evidence that our minds rely on what our body is doing to develop emotions. What causes our original happy expressions to fade? The answer is layers of personality and physical tension. I’ve found that it’s easy, natural and appropriate to smile during everything you do. I recommend smiling through tears, and anger to turn negative emotions around. I even have success smiling in my sleep. You should try it-it feels amazing.

I describe smiling’s relationship to happiness as the physical manifestation of joy. Smiling is the action that expresses happiness. Laughing however, is a more emotionally fueled reaction and when engaged in excessively, can deplete your energy. Smiling  focuses on the spiritual joy that arises from our essence.

For a person who wants to be more peaceful, happy, healthy and positive, practicing smiling and maintaining your happiness is certainly a habit that should be developed to it’s fullest depth.

Lots more to come on smiling…you know what to do in the meantime.

Happiness Forecast

The standard of living, in company with the meaning of happiness, transforms over time.  Happiness has been the center of hype and research for years. Society is now redefining what it is that we call happiness and where it comes from.

The concept of “happiness” was rarely taken into account by our ancestors, not to mention the prospect of the future even at a base level of comprehension.  Happiness came at too high of a perceived cost to even dream about. We’re currently able to satisfy our needs with bigger and better things, and that generates happy feelings; but happiness still escapes us. Its fleeting quality leaves us wondering if we’re getting true happiness from money, food, and other material things.

A day will arrive when repetition of the cycle of desire fulfillment will be perceived as fruitless action. People won’t be impressed by material things because those items will be considered creations of limited human wisdom and restricted human creative ability.

If we understand that happiness means more than just being satisfied with the material world, can the material world make us happy? By material world here, I mean the level of the 5 senses. Normally we try to stimulate happiness with pleasure that triggers these senses. We all know that kind of happiness is totally unsustainable, yet temporarily pleasing.

With all this talk about sustainable living, we really ought to be asking about sustainable happiness (next blog).

Because we’re getting a better idea of the future attributes of happiness, those who can adapt the quickest and master the new happiness have the edge in achieving success and health in the decades to come. This may  stretch you a bit:  in the future, if you’re not happy, you simply won’t exist here. One day, the only beings inhabiting the earth will be unconditionally happy.

I work with a research team that has proven that sustainable happiness is well within reach. In fact, it’s closer than we think. But there’s more to come about that and other cutting edge findings in my next blog.

Smiles,